Cheating - absolutely reprehensible, an adventure or just a slip-up?
According to an article published by the newspaper "Bild" in August
last year, one person in five has already cheated in currently ongoing
relationships. However, cheating or infidelity - what does this actually
mean? Man or woman - who cheats rather and more frequently on their
What is the attraction and where does cheating actually begin? Opinions
differ on these questions' answers. According to definition of Wikipedia
cheating is "a colloquial description for a temporary sexual relationship
between two human beings of whom at least one is married or in any
other solid social partner relationship". In short: Cheating on the
relationship partner or adultery. For some people cheating already
starts when thinking about it, some think it starts when kissing another
person and for other people not until a sexual relationship begins.
For certain persons cheating is just a slip-up, some claim not being
able to be faithful anyway and for quite a few people simply the thought
of cheating means the end of their ongoing relationship.
As different as the several interpretations of cheating are the causes
which persuade a person to cheat on the partner even though being
in an obviously happy relationship or marriage. While men often miss
the liveliness in bed or due to their midlife crises, women are often
looking for lost sympathy and emotional closeness. In general, the
attraction of the forbidden always plays a major part.
Depending on each character the habitudes regarding scruple are completely
different. Regardless of whether being a man or a woman - some quarrel
with themselves for a long time if they are generally able to do such
a thing to their partner, others are specifically looking for an infidelity
or an affair beside their actual relationship.
However, what if the own partner is cheating? Are you able to forgive?
If so, in which circumstances? Is there anything like reasonable causes
or like fault? Or is the cheater thrown out immediately? In fact,
the risk to be discovered and the danger of thus compromising the
ongoing relationship is omnipresent during an infidelity as well as
in case of longterm cheating.
There is debate about whether men cheat more often than women. A survey
published by the "Undercover Lovers" agency in which 4000 persons
were consulted concerning their affinity regarding infidelitys showed
something different. Thus women are the ones who cheat even with several
other partners and tendentially at an earlier time in their relationship
while men often content themselves with only one lover. However, 4000
persons are not one in five by no means, thus, generally speaking,
one can assume that the gender ratio in terms of cheating is relatively
Finally, the cheaters as well as the persons cheated on must learn
for themselves whether it is only a slip-up, an exciting adventure
or an alarm signal pointing to a failed marriage.