In our modern society values like faithfulness, true love, romantic
and interhuman relations get lost more and more. Everything is fast
moving, shaped by overstimulation and by the efforts to achieve more
efficiency and to gain more money. The invention of more words to
describe the results of today's lifestyle increases, like "Burnout"
or "Work-Life-Balance". This way of life and the impulse of always
trying to keep up with everyone and everything have an unavoidable
effect on our relationships. Couples seperate more quickly and more
precipitative than 20 years ago; the aspiration for personal fulfilment
gets stronger and the ability to have a well working conventional
relationship or marriage gets lost partially.
Facing today's fast moving nature, many people desire more slowlyness
and romantic togetherness. However, it is not always that easy to
find love and tenderness when being single and even in marriages and
partnerships in which romantic and passion got lost it isn't possible
to conjure it again easily. Therefore, it can happen quickly that
one partner cheats on the other due to the desire of feelings and
attraction.
To avoid this, couples must talk sincerely about their needs; in many
cases one person doesn't suspect that the counterpart is feeling in
the same way. Arising distance in a partnership should always be examined
and solved together to avoid putting the relationship at risk.
Even if both parts consider that there is nothing more to talk about
or there is nothing more to discover together in a sexual way this
could be a great mistake. In this case, perhaps, the right solution
hasn't crossed their mind yet. These days couple therapists, relationship
coaches and marriage counsellors can be found freuquently on the internet
or in phone books and when there is no more alternative they surely
are a recommendable contact point. Nevertheless, people could attempt
to find a solution for themselves, what is often more obvious than
actually assumed and might avoid premature seperation or cheating.
In the first instance we must learn to be content with what we have
and to work on it at first before we compromise it or look for something
new. It might be possible that - when thinking more about it and with
more slowlyness - new passion and love might grow and seperations
might be avoided.
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